Accept the loss and its permanence

Experience the emotions associated with grief

Adjust to daily life without the lost individual

Come to see the relationship with the deceased person as based on memories

Reconcile the loss with a higher power, if the child believes in a higher power.

"I understand that my grandfather is in Heaven now, which means that he won't be coming back."

"I just know that my grandfather will come back somehow!"

"I feel both angry and sad that God took my grandfather to heaven. Why did He have to do that?"

"I know that Sunday dinners are going to be sad without grandpa there, but mommy says he's there in spirit."

"I feel very, very sad that my mom isn't here anymore. It feels lonely around the house with just my dad, my sister, and I."

"My mom is dead? So what? Why do I need to feel sad about it when it's done and over?"

"I know Christmas this year will be hard on my family, but just because my mom isn't there physically doesn't means she isn't there mentally and emotionally."

"I understand that my mom is dead and not coming back."

"Children in this age group understand that something in their environment has changed. Try to maintain a normal routine to the best of your abilities, and it may be helpful to provide extra reassurance and attention."

"Children in this age group don't understand death, but they still experience behavioral changes, and may crave more attention and affection. It may be helpful to provide this extra attention."

"Children in this age group may not understand death the same way that adults do, but they understand that something is different. Try maintaining a normal schedule and providing extra attention to your child. These things may help your child through the grieving process."

"Children in this age group understand that death is irreversible. As such, they may crave more attention and affection from people until they're done grieving."

"I know that my friend has gone to heaven, and that one day I may be able to join him there."

"It's my fault that this happened because I was mad at my friend for cheating during tag at recess."

"Class is not the same anymore since I can't color with my friend."

"My other friend is scared that our teacher will die too, but I'm not that scared about it."

"It can't be my fault because I was always a good student who never had my card on red."

"I thought Mrs. S went on vacation, but I understand now that she's not on vacation, she's gone forever."

"I wonder what happened to Mrs. S after she died."

"I haven't been able to do my class work as normal since Mrs. S died. She was always so nice and helpful."

"Your child still doesn't quite understand how pertinent death is, but he may still feel like he caused it and be scared for your well-being. It's best to invite your child to talk about his feelings and answer questions honestly."

"Your child fully understands that death is an irreversible process, and may ask you questions about what happens after people die. Your child may start misbehaving at school or at home."

"Your child doesn't quite understand how permanent death is, which is the reason why he may act as though nothing has changed."

"Your child understands that death is permanent and may even feel like he caused it, creating guilt and fear that another death will happen as punishment for causing the first one."

Increased aggression

Misbehaving in school and at home

Withdrawing and engaging in solitary activities

Directing grief anger at parents