We are attracted
to people who we
find satisfying or
gratifying.
Most stimuli
can be seen as
rewarding or
punishing
We find
people
who meet
our needs
rewarding
Mutual
attraction
accurs
when each
person
meets the
others
needs
Rewards + Punishments
Rewarding stimuli
produce positive
feelings and punishing
stimuli produce
negative feelings.
People are
stimuli so that
is why some
make us happy
and some do
not
Operant
conditioning
means we
repeat
rewarding
behaviour.
We enter
relationships as
the other person
creates positive
feelings so we find
them attractive
Attraction Through Assosication
We like people
assosiated with
pleasent events.
We are more
likley to like
someone if we
meet them
when we are
happy
Positive and
negative
feelings are
crucial to
relationship
formation
Relationships are
more likely to
succeed if positives
outweigh the
negatives
Evaluation
Griffitt + Guay
Evaluated PPs
on a creative
task by an
experimenter.
Asked to rate
experimenter
Higher rating was
given when
experimenter had
positviley evaluated
them
Sheldon et al
Greater Facebook satisfaction
showed positive and negative
indicators of relationship
satisfaction
Connected people use FB to satisfy relational needs.
Disconnected people may lack satisfaction through
face-to-face relations - FB may be a coping strategy
Aron et al
PPs on self
report
questionnaire
showed
strong brain
activity in
certain brain
areas
Early romance
associated with
elevated brain
activity - rich in
dopamine.
Rewards Important?
Cate et al.
Asked 337 PPs to assess current
relationships and found reward
levels superior than others in
others in relationship
satisfaction
Hays
Gain satisfaction
from giving as well
as recieving.
Reward/Need only
explores recieving
of rewards
Similarity - Byrne, Clore + Smeaton
Similarity
promotes
liking. Two
stages in
relationship
formation.
Eliminate dissimilar people
as potential partners. Choose
some similar to themselves
from those remaining
Emphasis on
personality and
attitude
Personality
People are likely
to be attracted to
similar
personality traits
to themselves
Not always
the case but
research
suggests
similarity is
often the rule
in long term
relationships
Caspi + Herbener
Married
couples
happier
when
similar than
disimilar
couples
Attitudes
Partners may
discover
different
attitudes
towards things
e.g holidays
Research suggests
"attitude alignment"
where partners modify
their attitudes so they
become more similar in
order for the relationship
to develop
Evaluation - Similarity or dissimilarity
Rosenbaum
Dissimilarity more
important in
development-dissimilarity
Repulsion hypothesis
tested on different
cultures e.g USA
+Singapore.
Showed different PPs first attracted
because similarity but when they got to
know each other they became less
attracted as they discovered more
dissimilarity than similarity
Limitations
Only dealt with attitude and personality.
Yoshida
Only represents
a narrow view of
important
factors.
Self-contempt,
economic level +
body fat also
important
Speakman - found
people with similar
body fat often
chose each other
Why is Similarity Important?
1) We
assume
people
similar will
like us. We
lessen
chances of
rejection
by ruling
out
dissimilar
people
2) When other
people share our
attitudes and
beliefs it
validates them
which is found to
be rewarding
(Link to
Reward/Need
Satisfaction)