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1. Intro Part One-Story Poem | Title Card Slide Telling a story is speaking out anew what you always knew you knew but didn’t know you knew it until you heard yourself saying it and in the telling of it, you, the teller, became the listener too. |
1. Intro Part Two: Poem continued | Title Card Slide: The teller and the listener together both discover the process of finding out what the story is all about as one draws the story out of the other and the story tells itself from cover to cover. That was called "Storytelling—a poem on the storytelling process" by Ken Chawkin |
1. Intro Part Two-High School Brat | Slide #2 (High Schools) These are pictures of the three high schools I attended...all in the 9th grade. By the time I was 16 I had moved eight times, a typical story for a military brat. During those often difficult times of stress, transition, and adjustment to new places and faces, stories were my both my anchor and escape. |
2. Intro Part Two-A little bit about | Slide 2: (High Schools) Some of the stories that got me through were books like Roots, movies like Purple Rain, and tv shows like the X-Files. Through these stories I learned about surviving hard times, falling in love, and facing the unknown. I want you to close your eyes, BREATH imagine yourself as a teenager (pause) and recall some of the books, tv shows, or films that had an impact on you. What stories made you feel less alone, inspired you, resonated... When you've got something in mind on the count of three shout it out: (or whisper if shy) |
2. Intro Part Two-A little bit about | Didn't these stories teach you about life? love? Can you imagine what life would be like without these stories? My name is Maedean Yvonne Myers, I am a counsellor, drama instructor, and writer. I am here today to share with you three simple ways you can use come of the concepts of storytelling to support your well-being. |
3. Intro Part Three: Benefits | Slide 3-Benefits We can use what I call "stories" with a lower case s, to benefit ourselves, each other, and our communities. For example, as the the creative interpretors of our experience, we can influence the stories we tell ourselves to be less discouraging and more encouraging. We can tell ourselves stories that give some kind of meaningful structure to experiences that sometimes seem to be without rhyme or reason. Swapping stories can build knowledge empowering us to make better choices. While sharing stories within our families can strengthen community, connection, and cultural identity. |
4a. Mental Health Parable | Before I go into the 4 elements of storytelling I will be focusing on, I'd like to start by sharing this passage from a talk given by Gil Fronsdal at the Insight Meditation Center: The Buddha once asked, If a person is struck by an arrow, is that painful?" Yes. The Buddha then asked, "If the person is struck by a second arrow, is that even more painful?" Of course. If we condemn, judge, hate, or deny the first arrow, that is like being struck by the second arrow. The second arrow is optional." |
4b. Mental Health Personal Health | If you kind of know me, you know about my fear of flying. In fact, if you really know me, you probably know that one of the mental health issues that I've dealt with at various points of my life is anxiety. If you don't know me, you might just see someone whose got a lot going for them. And I do. But to everyone person in this room who may be secretly dealing with mental health issues, I want you to know, that you are not alone. The more we start to share our stories, the more we remove the shame and stigma attached to mental distress and illness. So let's stop shooting the 2nd arrow. . |
4c. Mental Health definition | Slide 4-Definitions I love the use of the word "learning" inviting the sense that mental health is not a static state, but a process, a continuing journey of education and research. So I hope you learn some new tools today to take with you on your mental health journey. (on the slide?) http://www.cmha.ca/mental-health/your-mental-health/ |
4d. Definitions Storytelling | Slide 4 -Definitions For our purposes today, the elements of storytelling I am interested in are: 1. Structure-beginning, middle, and end 2. Connection 3. Third Person/Distancing Narrative 4. Theme |
5. Structure. beginning, middle and end | Slide 5-Structure In a study out of the University of California done in 2006 they found that those who talked into a recording device reported higher levels of emotional well being than those who just thought about their distressing situation. This is just one example of research that shows that rumination, just thinking about a problem, keeps it on a loop. It never ends, it just plays over and over again on repeat, preventing that experience from integrating into a coherent narrative. You're stuck. |
5. Structure-beginning, middle, and end cont | In contrast, telling yourself out loud or through writing, speaking to another, invites structure with a beginning, middle, and end. For example, in my head I might have "Oh, I just really disappointed my boss!" running on repeat (demonstrate). It's weird isn't it? It's okay in your head, but if you were to say it out loud... now... Looking at the storyboard on the slide, imagine a mildly irritating situation you are facing now. What do you see in the beginning, the middle and what is hoped for end, in that last storyboard box? |
6.. Third Person/Distancing Narrative | Slide 6-Third Person Psychotherapists such as Kim Schneiderman, author of “Step out of your story” found that by referring to yourself in third person, you can sidestep the ego, and view yourself and situation from a distance. Other researchers, such as Ethan Kross have found that by distancing in our self talk by using non-first-person language, we can view our problems from a more holistic perspective, rather than the narrowly focused" I" decreasing emotional reactivity and facilitating meaning making. you are creating this kind of compassionate other voice |
7. Connections | Slide 7-Connections Stories help you engage, as the poem at the beginning states : The teller and the listener together both discover the process of finding out what the story is all about. So whether you are both the teller and listener, for example when writing in your journal, or sharing your story with another you are engaging in this kind of ancient process of connecting more deeply with yourself and others. |
5. Theme | Slide 8 -Theme Examples READ JOHA STORY This story was read to me by a child in one of my classes. It instantly crystallized a theme in the current chapter of my life-learning to trust that I actually had enough. Stories help us move from the micro view of the ego to the larger macro view connecting us to humanity. We may notice a theme, a recurring pattern, or perhaps some larger life lesson or moral emerging when we can either speak to ourselves or another through a story. Some themes include: (take from the board) Gratitude Change never ends Love Forgiveness What are the themes or lessons you notice in your own life? |
3 Ways to Use Story: Intro to exercises | Slide 9-3 Ways to Use Story 1. Intrapersonal 2. Interpersonally 3. Circles of Folks you care about |
Comment on Carl Rogers | Slide 10-Interapersonal storytelling -Carl Rogers quote doing this intrapersonal storytelling in a compassionate voice is important because as Carl Rogers says |
6a. Intrapersonal Practice Exercise Third Person Thought Experiment | Slide 11-interpersonal exercise 1 I have an example on the slide of the difference between an "I" focused story and a sort of third person or non first person perspective. A good way to practice is as if you were actually talking to a compassionate friend. I invite you to now to close your eyes if you wish and as a thought experiment, do this in your head. Talk to yourself about a recent event, referring to yourself by your name or with a loving pet name, so something like beloved, hero, darling, good guy, sweetheart, Do you feel less or more compassionate towards yourself? |
7. Other Intra-personal Examples of Storytelling | Slide 12-other examples And finally, there are several ways to engage in this kind of intra-personal storytelling So here, I just want to highlight journalling--1. stress compassionate friend writing 2. reading or watching film/tv mindfully and journalling (personal story) 1. journaling -dialogic, compassionate friend, hero's journey (The process is personal, intimate, and uniquely individual.) 2. Reading about fictional characters 3. recording yourself on your iphone 4. Talking out loud to yourself 5. Using various writing exercises such as ones we've just considered |
9. Inter personal Uses of Storytelling Part One | Slide 13-Interpersonal Storytelling Studies have found that talking to someone, sharing your narrative with someone else can have a profound impact on your mental wellbeing. In one of the studies I used in my thesis, Julia Vadja (2007), a researcher conducting interviews with Hungarian Shoah survivors, noted a therapeutic effect on one of her interviewees who described the listening of the interviewers as a “technology” (Vadja, 2007, p. 92) . |
10. Inter personal Uses of Storytelling Part 2 | Slide 13 -same We make time for all kinds of technology, our televisions, internet, smart cars, juicemakers i-phones, ipads... What if we started to make more time for listening "technology". Research suggests that externalizing your concerns in conversation, even for a couple minutes can have appreciable health benefits, including the release of dopamine-the feel good chemical in the brain”. |
Interpersonal Practice Talk to person next to you | Slide 13-same So I would now like to invite to try an exercise inspired by Compassion Cultivation Training. Face the person next to you. One person will speak for 90 seconds. You can reflect on themes in this chapter of your life or talk about your day. Keep to subjects again that are only in the 1-3 range of distressing. The other person is to listen with their full presence without interruption for those 90 seconds. I will call time, you thank each other. Then switch. |
Interpersonal Practice: Talk to person next to you After 90 seconds each. stop. | AFTER: With a show of hands, how many of you FEEL MORE STRESSED? LESS STRESSED? |
12. 3. Family-Unchosen and Chosen/Circle of Caring/ Community (with others) | Slide 14-Elephant slide A third way to use storytelling in your everyday life is by sharing stories within your larger communities both chosen and un-chosen. |
13a. Family Story: Uncle Stanley | Slide 15-Uncle Stanley 2. “The men would get work on the trains as porters. Work their up north until they wound up in New York City. There was still a lot of racism at the time, so lots of folks were eager to get out of the South. Your grandfather, Jitter Myers, got a job as a building custodian in the Bronx. He made sure anyone of the family who made up to New York had a place to stay. He always knew people so somehow he always managed to hook people with some kind of job. After a few years, you couldn’t walk around the Bronx without running into a Myers and we started doing alright. Your grandfather was a big part of that. “ |
13a. Family Story-Uncle Stanley | Slide 15-Uncle Stanley This slide of my uncle Stanley. He used his skill as an artist to create this tapestry of our family tree that's now hanging in New Jersey art gallery. |
13b. How to gather family stories | Slide 15-Uncle Stanley picture You can gather family stories through art photography recipes don't share yet handmade goods objects interviewing family members |
Practice: Family Story | Slide 16 Family Story Exploration To the person next you, describe a member of your family, chosen or un-chosen that you admire. What is one trait you admire about them? or Talk about how your ancestors got her-speculate on what strengths they might have used. I will call time in 90 seconds and you will switch. Notice how you feel. |
13A. Family Story | Slide 17-Purpose of Storytelling These is a recipe from my grandmother-every-time I take out htis faded piece of paper in her precise handwriting, I am instantly with her. Families are imperfect. Sometimes even awful. Find the thread of positive, find the threads of resilience, the stories of small acts of heroism and resistance...even if have to create the story yourself. Search your history to find the stories that you and future generations can use as touchstones, to connect you to sources of strength and hope. (0ma story) |
End of the Presentation | Slide 18-Touchstones Thank you for listening. I hope you have some inspiration for how use stories, within yourself, each other, and within your families. Keep looking for the touchstone stories in your life. |
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